Check out this short article about self-talk. The two tips at the end of the article are great for sports, obviously. And, they are great for anything in your life that spurs on negative self-talk. This could be work, parenting, relationships, etc. I think a lot of people think about self-talk prior to an event starting and then forget about self-talk once its over. If the event didn’t go the way we hoped, then the self-talk can turn pretty negative for some of us. This is the most important time to focus on what you are saying, I believe. Because prior to the event sometimes what we are saying may be perceived as contrived or false positivities by our brains. Once the event is over, what we are saying is more impactful because it’s already happened, it’s reality now, so what we are saying is perceived as more accurate to our brains. So if you go into something saying “I GOT THIS!” “I’M GOING TO BE THE BEST!” and, then, if the event totally doesn’t go well the language turns into “Dang, I did terrible. I came in last, I’m not cut out for this. I suck at …..” You’re hurting so much from the disappointment that these words stick. We don’t words like that sticking to anything!
How do we get out of this trap?? One of my favorite things to do is debrief after an event: what went well, what didn’t go well, what will we do next time. What kinds of things do you do to help with your self talk? Try out the two tips on the article.